The Healing Power Of Positive Language For Clients

a massive part of holding space is listening to stories of the lovely folks we serve.  when we listen, we listen for all of it – what’s spoken, what goes unspoken, body language, repeated phrases, the slightest quiver in the voice, the energy in the space, energy hooks, unconscious mannerisms and dynamics, the whole enchilada.

as you listen, you can watch for a common way clients and students unconsciously anchor patterns, illness, and challenges.  here’s an example, listening to imaginary clients ‘tara’ and ‘piper’ in session:

tara: ‘my trauma, my anxiety, my stress, my disease, my illness’
(she’s declaring ownership of what she says she wants to release, inviting these things to stick around, and weaving imbalance into identity)

piper: ‘the trauma, the anxiety, the stress, the disease, the illness’
(she’s named conditions that are truthfully present – and these experiences exist and can be transitory.  ‘the’ experiences can be ephemeral)

both tara and piper are using their power.

piper will heal more swiftly, and with more ease.

if you’re creating real spaces for alchemy, change, and flow, you might consider playing with ‘dynamic, living language’ in your sessions, circles, workshops, and articles.

reason being, static language anchors conditions and experiences.  it keeps things stuck.

dynamic language invites us into flow state, into the dance and mystery of living.  change becomes possible.

dynamic words are awesome, because the nervous system of your student, client, or group standing at the precipice of an inner shift won’t balk at something static that is obviously not true (yet).

instead of ‘you’re healed!’ (when the healing is obviously still happening), you might play with ‘your healing is unfolding in a beautiful and strong way.’  feel the difference?

…with dynamic language, you’re anchoring healing that is actively happening and unfolding. it’s empowering, and everything is becoming possible, real time.  you and your clients are becoming adaptive, resilient, curious, powerful, and joyful with dynamic language.

this is INCREDIBLY important for you as well, as you speak and hold the space.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve removed from client energy bodies the very real impact of a doctor/nurse/person of status saying to someone ‘your cancer’ or ‘your trauma’ or ‘your illness’…or ‘this is chronic’ or ‘you’ll deal with this forever’ or ‘this can’t be cured.’  (cancel, release!)

please don’t add to this unhealthy dynamic.  as a person tending folks in vulnerable spaces, you can empower them in a very real and powerful way.  everything – in every circumstance – can get better, be more loving, and more filled with light.

this isn’t ‘subtle.’  your clients’ and students’ cells are listening.  their sentient immune systems are listening.  their hearts are listening.  they trust you – you can model for them, help clean up the unintended hurt left in others’ wake, and empower them in their process.

you might have been down in the trenches yourself, shadow-dancing with fear or despair, and experienced firsthand the power of a trusted one speaking again and again that you are well, you are radiant, you are strong, you are healing, that they believe in you and your power to heal.

if so, you’ve experienced firsthand how healing it is to be seen and held in your wellness.  this changes lives.